Three Reflections from my Evening Spent with a Ghost


Three Reflections from my Evening Spent with a Ghost

It’s customary for our family to watch Holiday specials during this time of year.

It’s also equally customary – for me – to plead with my wife and daughter to resist the urge to search for these specials on the Hallmark channel.

Thankfully, removing Hallmark from the list of options leaves us with wide a wide assortment of Christmas classics that bear the test of time.

We rarely, as a family, agree on which Christmas special to watch.

Last night was no different.

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Delight: God’s Original and Ultimate Goal


Delight, God’s Original and Ultimate Goal

Dallas Willard once defined love as an affection that’s always directed toward what is good for its objects.  From Creation to Restoration, God’s good has always been directed toward us!

God’s goal, the primary agenda of the heavenly Father, has always been and remains – to this day – that we take delight in Him. This goal, or desire, toward us is birthed from His love for us.

God’s love is on full and magnificent display in the Creation account.  In the creation account, the Father creates an environment perfectly suited to sustain life and then He creates the living beings perfectly fitted to flourish within His environment!

He then invites us to partner with Him and His work in the world.  It’s an invitation to tend, cultivate (create culture), and care for His wonderful world.


Because God loves us and His love is directed toward what’s best for us!   This others-oriented love of God is what I’ve come to call a Signature Affection of Creation. 

There is also, however, a competing affection lurking in the shadows.

This affection, though secondary, is powerful.

This competing affection – we might even call it a forgery (in keeping with the signature affection metaphor) – looks a bit like love.

It mimics love.

It attempts to provide the promise and power of love.

It’s even alluring, like love.

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The Preteen Field is Drenched in Blood and Porn is its Reaper!


The Preteen Field is Drenched in Blood and Porn is its Reaper!

Are you one of those who still believe that Porn and civility can coexist?

Many do.

I know that correlation (we detect a relationship between the proliferation of porn and violence in our culture) and causation (porn proliferation can be traced directly to, or is the cause of, abuse and violence among teens) are two very different things.

But it doesn’t take a statistician to know that Porn is reaping a bloody harvest in what should be our most fertile field.

The field?  Teens and preteens.

They are, after all, Porn’s primary target.

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