Imagining Heaven: The Day Without Night

In Blessing, Death and Dying, Desire, Heaven, Imagination, The Parade of Nations by Bizgainey1 Comment

Year in and year out, I have one post that gets more attention than all the other ones.   It’s one a wrote nearly three years ago.  The piece is a vision of heaven, the hereafter, and the moments in between.  It’s designed to give hope to those who go to rest in the arm of the Lord.

This year, as in the previous two, this will be my last post of the year.  I pray it will bring you hope!…
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Christmas Morning: Opening the Gift of a Porn-Free Life!

In Addictions, Christmas, Consumption, Formation, Freedom, Freedom from Porn, Marriage, Men Against Porn, Pornography by BizgaineyLeave a Comment

The Christmas season is one of gift-giving and receiving.  In all likelihood you will, on Christmas morning, celebrate this gift-exchange tradition with friends and family.  You may gather around a tree, in a living room, near a fireplace, etc. and open gifts shared by those who love you and those whom you love.

If you happen to be struggling with your porn addiction during this season, you’ll likely be disengaged from this life-giving moment.

You may, in fact, totally check out.

Indeed, if you’ve been trolling the web for porn …
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A Daily Prayer for Peace: Haunt Me With Your Holiness

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Overwhelmed this last week of the Advent Season? Unprepared for the mad dash this week may become?

Perhaps this prayer, prayed daily, might help you ‘clear he mechanism’ and celebrate He who is worthy of celebration every season, all year-long!

A PRAYER TO RECAPTURE THE HAUNTING HOLINESS OF ADVENT

Dear Father,

May this season, often flattened and frenetic, bound by a life with little room for you,

expand to receive the haunting presence of your holy love: the beauty of your glory revealed!

Haunt me with a sense of your …
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Does One Bad Moment Make Me a Monster?

In Addictions, Brokenness, Formation, Freedom, Freedom from Porn, Habits, Pornography, Technology by BizgaineyLeave a Comment

During the early days of my journey out of porn addiction, I remember a time when I had been porn-free for about 90 days (yes, I numbered freedom by days, not months).  It was, at that time, the longest I had ever gone without clicking a website, watching a video, or trying to get porn in any form I could.

Then one day I crashed, badly.  All the signs were there; I just didn’t see them.  Either that or I simply refused to take note of them.

The triggers were:…
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Beholding True Beauty! Traps and Triggers, Part 4.

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Triggers and Traps: The Trap Day

I know the term Trap Day is an unfamiliar one.  It is, in fact, not one I have heard of anywhere else.  That’s because it’s one that is birthed from my personal journey out of porn addiction and into a porn-free life.  In my experience the Trap Day is a day of ongoing struggle with porn’s pull.  It’s a day when one is particularly susceptible to porn and its destructive power of persuasion.

The Trap Day is as unexpected as it is unavoidable.

The …
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Recognizing Triggers and Traps, Part 3.

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Triggers and Traps: The Tempting Situation

As I write this post on preparing for and resisting The Tempting Situation, I am sitting in a Starbucks drinking my customary Grande Bold Coffee, black.

Here is what I can tell you based on this one morning in Starbucks: For those of us who are trying to live a porn-free life, or who are trying to maintain a porn-free life, temptations abound, and they are everywhere.

We will, at some point, be tempted or face a Tempting Situation, in which our …
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