A Well-Loved Soul is a Soul that Loves Well!

In Contemplation, Culture, Discipleship, Formation, Fully Awake, Habits, Spiritual Formation by BizgaineyLeave a Comment

The outcome of a well-loved soul is a life well lived!

I long to be a well-loved soul. I know that when my soul is well loved, I will love others well. The book of Psalms is a river of refreshing waters, from which I drink when my soul thirsts for love.  I often find that, whether in lament or laughter, the psalmist’s words ooze blessings that both spring from and shape a well-loved soul.

“Bless the Lord, O my soul, and all that is within me, bless his …
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Three Ways to Show I Love You In 3 Minutes Or Less

In Formation by Bizgainey1 Comment

Late to the game this V-day??

For the guys who never know what to get, always forget they need to get something or just don’t get it, period.

These options won’t get you out of the dog house, but they may shorten the stay.

Try these three quick but meaningful acts of love.

Tell her you are sorry.  If you make a mess of things, just be genuine and let her know. Too late to take her out to dinner?  Wait a while and go grab desert.  Dinner on V-day…
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Is My Pastor Hooked On Porn?

In Addictions, Desire, Formation, Loneliness, Men Against Porn, Ministry, Pornography by BizgaineyLeave a Comment

Do you know where your pastor is right now?

Do you know what he or she is doing, this very moment?

Of course, you don’t.  Most of us don’t know where (unless they are actually with us) our spouse or children are at this precise moment.  We don’t truly know what they are doing, nor do we know with whom they are doing whatever they are doing.

We could venture an educated guess or two and, perhaps, get close.

If you were to ‘guess’ what your pastor is doing, right …
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Happy Birthday, Pillar! I’m Going to Tell You A Story I’ve Never Told Before!

In Christian Leadership, Community, Formation, Ministry, Prayer, Purpose and Meaning, Spiritual Formation, Surrender by Bizgainey5 Comments

I am going to tell you a story I have never told before.

Storytelling is, invariably, a one-sided affair. The story being told is shaped by the one doing the telling. The light of story is refracted through the life lens of the storyteller. This story is no different. This story is a part of the Pillar story, but it is hopelessly bound to the storyteller who – in this case – is me, her founding pastor. And, though it’s only a partial story – as all stories are – …
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With Desire So Demanding, Why is God So Distant?

In Desire, Discipleship, Formation, Freedom, Fully Awake, Purpose and Meaning, Spiritual Formation, Surrender by Bizgainey1 Comment

The first month of a new year is often a time of expectancy and hope. The onset of the new year typically provides a few weeks during which we celebrate the goodness of God, the faithful promise keeper! We carry with us new visions of satisfaction; replacing yesterday’s memories of despair and hunger. Indeed, we hope – at least in some measure – to discover satisfaction and fulfillment in the year ahead. That’s why I have spent the bulk of January reflecting on the nature and nurture of soul satisfying …
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Desire Four: Look Up and LEAN IN!!

In Contemplation, Desire, Discipleship, Formation, Fully Awake, Spiritual Formation by BizgaineyLeave a Comment

Gary Turk – writer, filmmaker and award-winning producer – watched his cultural capital soar through the roof with the global success of Look Up. Look Up is a spoken word narrative, set to film, that exposes the shortcomings of a society addicted to technology. One of my favorite lyrics in the poem/song speaks to the longing for connection we desire and the lack of intimacy we experience; describing the outcome of generation raised in our techno-zombie age:

“We’re surrounded by children, who since they were born, watch us living like …
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The Long Journey Home: 2016’s Desires, Part 2!

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“But the things that began to happen after that were so great and beautiful that I cannot write them.”

The above quote is the way C.S. Lewis begins the closing pages of his final book in the Chronicles of Narnia Series, The Last Battle.  The Last Battle is my favorite of the Narnia series!  Lewis goes on to say – in painting his picture of heaven,  “And for us this is the end of all the stories, and we can most truly say that they all lived happily ever after. …
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“THANKS to my readers” and the “Top 5” of 2015

In Addictions, Brokenness, Community, Formation, Top Five of The Year by Bizgainey2 Comments

My final post of the year is usually one offering the most popular Disruptusrenovatus posts from the past 12 months – based on views, reads, shares and comments.

I wrote or published fifty-seven pieces during 2015. As one who has a full life and ministry in a great community – with a wonderful congregation – I find it hard to believe that I was able to produce that many articles.…
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Porn: Three Ways to Keep that “Gift” in it’s Box!!

In Advent, Brokenness, Christmas, Community, Desire, Formation, Habits, Pornography by Bizgainey2 Comments

This time of year – the Thanksgiving through mid-January holiday season (because the college bowl season has become its own holiday) –  is a particularly vibrant season for many of us.

Extended holiday seasons provide space to celebrate life and the loved ones with whom we live.  They are dotted with parties, engagements, gift – giving, year-end bonuses, festive feasts, etc.

While Holidays can offer joy and celebration, they also produce emotions ranging from anxiety and anger to stress and depression.  Many of these negative emotions are kept at bay …
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The Haunting Holiness of Advent: “Do it Again, Daddy, Do it Again!”

In Advent, Brokenness, Christmas, Culture, Discipleship, Formation by Bizgainey5 Comments

Advent once imagined a season of hope.

Advent once foreshadowed a season in which we replace the tragedy of today with the hope of the Day, yet to come.

Advent once envisioned a season in which holy light celebrated the declension of all that’s dark.

Advent – at one time – celebrated the cessation and fulfillment of all desire!

While the Advent season has become – for many today – a season as haunting as it is holy, for most it’s neither haunting nor holy. We are blissfully unaware …
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