The Preteen Field is Drenched in Blood and Porn is its Reaper!

In Consumption, Culture, Formation, Freedom from Porn, Men Against Porn, Parenting, Pornography, Sex and Violence by BizgaineyLeave a Comment

The Preteen Field is Drenched in Blood and Porn is its Reaper!

Are you one of those who still believe that Porn and civility can coexist?

Many do.

I know that correlation (we detect a relationship between the proliferation of porn and violence in our culture) and causation (porn proliferation can be traced directly to, or is the cause of, abuse and violence among teens) are two very different things.

But it doesn’t take a statistician to know that Porn is reaping a bloody harvest in what should be our …
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Three Things I Wish I’d Known the Moment I Became a Dad!

In Children, Dad, Formation, Marriage, Parenting by BizgaineyLeave a Comment

I became a father in 1997.

It took a while for me to learn how to become a dad.  Through a series of not so pretty combustions, explosions, trials, and triumphs, I finally figured a few things out!

In keeping with the theme of this blog site, that lasting change requires ongoing disruption; I want to share three things I wish I’d known the moment I became a dad.

These things were discovered because I failed, often.…
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Six Quick Tips to Combat the Seedy Side of Social Media!

In Addictions, Formation, Parenting, Social Media by BizgaineyLeave a Comment

Six Quick Tips To Combat Seedy Side of Social Media!

Okay, parents, we all know that social media is here to stay.

If that’s the case, developing a strategy that will enable your child to enjoy the benefit of social media (and gaming sites), while preventing them from early exposure to the seedy side of the social media world is vital.

In this post, I’ll share Six-Quick Tips that will help you prepare your child and develop an intentional plan in your home!…
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Social Media Apps Provide Porn and a Big Blue Whale that’s Killing Our Kids!

In Culture, Formation, Freedom from Porn, Parenting, Pornography, Social Media by BizgaineyLeave a Comment

Social Media Apps Provide Porn and a Big Blue Whale that’s Killing Our Kids.

Have you heard of the Blue Whale Challenge?

No?

Stop what you are doing and Google it.  Better yet, get on your Instagram and key in #thebluewhalechallenge.

Be prepared, this game is being blamed for over 100 suicides in Russia and the UK.

It’s made its way to our shores and recently claimed the life of a 15 year-old  Texas child.

It’s time you learn what it is, how to prepare your child, and ways to …
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Social Media: You Child is Spending NINE Hours A Day On it!

In Addictions, Culture, Discipleship, Freedom from Porn, Habits, Parenting, Social Media by BizgaineyLeave a Comment

Social Media: You Child is Spending NINE Hours a Day On It!

Social media apps are saturated with porn.  Porn is not, however, the only problem.  The problems associated with social media, particularly among the generation raised with unfettered access to social media, range from lack of trust to a loss of hope.

Note the lament of a teenager raised in the digital age.  While her voice is her own, it’s one familiar to and representative of so many more:

“I have terrible trust issues.  Ever since middle school and …
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A Father’s Confession: How Instagram Made Me Feel Like a Fool

In Consumption, Formation, Freedom from Porn, Parenting, Pornography by BizgaineyLeave a Comment

A Father’s Confession: How Instagram Made Me Feel Like a Fool Warning: Explicit Content Ahead!  The content of this post deals directly with pornography and the immediate access our children have to it through social media apps.  As such, the language and specific wording is more explicit than many of my posts. I believe, firmly, this is a message that must be voiced, heard, and shared.   I do, however, recognize that many may find it offensive.  It’s not my intent to offend, but to inform.  I plan on writing a…
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Five Practical Pointers for Parenting Tweens in an Age of Porn!

In Addictions, Parenting, Pornography, Sex and Violence by BizgaineyLeave a Comment

Parenting is tough work.

Particularly these days.

Parents today are forced to raise children who are exposed multiple levels of input at ages early than ever before.

For example, most parents are likely unaware of what happened during the years of 2008 – 2011 regarding pornographic content available to tweens.

Do you remember what you were doing between the years of 2008 – 2011?

Not sure?

Yeah.  Me either.

Pornography and Preteens or Tweens

But I can tell you what Pornographers were doing.  They were trapping our preteens and tweens.…
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One Ounce of Prevention . . . Kids and Porn

In Freedom from Porn, Habits, Men Against Porn, Parenting, Pornography, Technology by BizgaineyLeave a Comment

“One ounce of prevention is worth a pound of cure.”

This axiom, credited to Benjamin Franklin, is as true today as it was then.  Especially if you want to help your kids steer clear of pornography.

This quick post is designed to do that very thing: help you help your kids steer clear of pornography.

I am a father of three teenagers.  I am a man who has won hard-fought freedom from porn’s grip.  This ‘ounce’ of prevention is designed to give you some handles so that you can do …
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Five Quick Tips for Parenting Against Porn

In Addictions, Brokenness, Culture, Formation, Parenting, Pornography by BizgaineyLeave a Comment

Five Quick Tips for Parenting Against Porn†

My wife and I – having three teenagers in our home – are raising children who are fully absorbed into the first technology-drenched generation.  As such, we’ve learned a few things – often through failure – that might help those of you who are walking in our shoes.

So, from the heart of one parent to another – if you are interested in PARENTING AGAINST PORN and guarding your child’s heart, then take a minute and consider the following FIVE QUICK TIPS.

Tip
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Would Dr. Seuss ‘Google’ in a Boat?

In Community, Culture, Parenting, Purpose and Meaning, Uncategorized by BizgaineyLeave a Comment

“I would not eat them here or there I would not eat them anywhere. I would not eat green eggs and ham. I do not like them Sam I Am.”

Ah, yes. Dr. Seuss. Many of us have grown up reading and hearing his stories. Green Eggs and Ham no doubt chief among them all. Did you know that his stories were designed to teach vocabulary words?

Knowing this original intention, as a boy, would have ruined the whole experience for me.…
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