The Preteen Field is Drenched in Blood and Porn is its Reaper!

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The Preteen Field is Drenched in Blood and Porn is its Reaper!

Are you one of those who still believe that Porn and civility can coexist?

Many do.

I know that correlation (we detect a relationship between the proliferation of porn and violence in our culture) and causation (porn proliferation can be traced directly to, or is the cause of, abuse and violence among teens) are two very different things.

But it doesn’t take a statistician to know that Porn is reaping a bloody harvest in what should be our …
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A Dozen (or so) Alarming Trends Directly Related to Porn Addiction, Pt. 4

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A Dozen (or so) Alarming Trends Directly Related to Porn Addiction, Pt. 4

As I reflect on my past of porn consumption/addiction, I cannot recall one moment of mutual consent.

In fact, the experience of viewing pornography is discordant on every level. While enticing one with passion, delight, and satisfaction, pornography is cloaked in power, domination, and self-absorption.

In short order, it’s all about consumption. The consumer both consumes and is consumed!

Porn consumption (a.k.a, viewing) ignites an insatiable urge to, first visually and then physically, consume the flesh of …
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Porn Addiction and Twelve (or so) Alarming Trends, Pt. 3

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Porn Addiction and Twelve (or so) Alarming Trends, Pt. 3

An entire generation has been asleep at the wheel when it comes to protecting our children against the pandemic that is Porn!

What do the following dates have in common?

430 B.C.

531 A.D.

1334

1630

1860

1918

They all serve as markers for country-wide or global epidemics that took millions of lives.

Let’s add another one to the list:

2008

That’s the year social media apps began to explode on smartphones and tablets.

It’s also the year when most …
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Porn Consumption and Twelve (or so ) Alarming Trends Series!

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Porn Consumption and Twelve (or so) Alarming Trends, Pt. 2

Did you know that 4,599,000,000 hours of porn were watched last year alone.

That number is four billion, five hundred and ninety-nine million hours of porn viewed last year.

Let’s reflect on that number for a few minutes.

There are a total of 8,760 hours in a year.  That’s less than ten thousand. If one person were to watch that much porn, over a life time, they would require a life expectancy of somewhere in the five century range.…
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A Dozen (or so) Alarming Trends Directly Related to Porn Consumption.

In Addictions, Consumption, Freedom from Porn, Marriage, Men Against Porn, Pornography, Sex and Violence by BizgaineyLeave a Comment

If statistics related to porn consumption are correct, then it’s safe to assume that close to eight out of ten men view porn on a consistent basis.

If they are, as some believe, inflated, then it’s still safe to assume that somewhere between six out of ten men view porn consistently.

By consistent, I mean an average of several times a month.

That’s a pretty conservative estimation.  Admittedly, stats on viewing are difficult to determine, since viewing habits are secretly kept and rarely shared.  As one who has viewed porn …
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Social Media Apps Provide Porn and a Big Blue Whale that’s Killing Our Kids!

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Social Media Apps Provide Porn and a Big Blue Whale that’s Killing Our Kids.

Have you heard of the Blue Whale Challenge?

No?

Stop what you are doing and Google it.  Better yet, get on your Instagram and key in #thebluewhalechallenge.

Be prepared, this game is being blamed for over 100 suicides in Russia and the UK.

It’s made its way to our shores and recently claimed the life of a 15 year-old  Texas child.

It’s time you learn what it is, how to prepare your child, and ways to …
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A Father’s Confession: How Instagram Made Me Feel Like a Fool

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A Father’s Confession: How Instagram Made Me Feel Like a Fool Warning: Explicit Content Ahead!  The content of this post deals directly with pornography and the immediate access our children have to it through social media apps.  As such, the language and specific wording is more explicit than many of my posts. I believe, firmly, this is a message that must be voiced, heard, and shared.   I do, however, recognize that many may find it offensive.  It’s not my intent to offend, but to inform.  I plan on writing a…
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Parenting Against Porn’s Mid-week Minute- This Year’s Dirty Dozen!

In Freedom from Porn, Men Against Porn, Pornography, Sex and Violence, Social Imaginary, Technology by BizgaineyLeave a Comment

Welcome to the Disruptus Renovatus Mid-Week Minute, a Parenting Update.  This is a tool (often a short read) designed to assist parents who want to protect their children and grandchildren from the influence of porn!

Many times I’ll provide helpful tips and hints related to technology and the media-crazed teen world.

Other times I’ll offer stories from my experience of parenting and struggle with porn addiction.

Most of these posts will highlight, however, porn’s ongoing, and often subterranean, influence in our culture.  May of us, in the midst of our …
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Five Practical Pointers for Parenting Tweens in an Age of Porn!

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Parenting is tough work.

Particularly these days.

Parents today are forced to raise children who are exposed multiple levels of input at ages early than ever before.

For example, most parents are likely unaware of what happened during the years of 2008 – 2011 regarding pornographic content available to tweens.

Do you remember what you were doing between the years of 2008 – 2011?

Not sure?

Yeah.  Me either.

Pornography and Preteens or Tweens

But I can tell you what Pornographers were doing.  They were trapping our preteens and tweens.…
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Love as the Experience of Knowing and Being Known

In Christian Leadership, Community, Culture, Formation, Love, Pornography, Social Imaginary by BizgaineyLeave a Comment

Love, the experience of knowing and being known, is a game-changer!

Love certainly changed the game for me!

I can easily list a host of “loves” that have produced change and transformation in my life:

The love of my parents governed some of the most critical changes in my life from the outset! The love of my wife has picked up where my parents left off. Her deep love has proven to be transformative on a multitude of levels as I have grown – while married to her – into…
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