Parenting Against Porn’s Mid-week Minute- This Year’s Dirty Dozen!

In Freedom from Porn, Men Against Porn, Pornography, Sex and Violence, Social Imaginary, Technology by BizgaineyLeave a Comment

Welcome to the Disruptus Renovatus Mid-Week Minute, a Parenting Update.  This is a tool (often a short read) designed to assist parents who want to protect their children and grandchildren from the influence of porn!

Many times I’ll provide helpful tips and hints related to technology and the media-crazed teen world.

Other times I’ll offer stories from my experience of parenting and struggle with porn addiction.

Most of these posts will highlight, however, porn’s ongoing, and often subterranean, influence in our culture.  May of us, in the midst of our …
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One Ounce of Prevention . . . Kids and Porn

In Freedom from Porn, Habits, Men Against Porn, Parenting, Pornography, Technology by BizgaineyLeave a Comment

“One ounce of prevention is worth a pound of cure.”

This axiom, credited to Benjamin Franklin, is as true today as it was then.  Especially if you want to help your kids steer clear of pornography.

This quick post is designed to do that very thing: help you help your kids steer clear of pornography.

I am a father of three teenagers.  I am a man who has won hard-fought freedom from porn’s grip.  This ‘ounce’ of prevention is designed to give you some handles so that you can do …
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Does One Bad Moment Make Me a Monster?

In Addictions, Brokenness, Formation, Freedom, Freedom from Porn, Habits, Pornography, Technology by BizgaineyLeave a Comment

During the early days of my journey out of porn addiction, I remember a time when I had been porn-free for about 90 days (yes, I numbered freedom by days, not months).  It was, at that time, the longest I had ever gone without clicking a website, watching a video, or trying to get porn in any form I could.

Then one day I crashed, badly.  All the signs were there; I just didn’t see them.  Either that or I simply refused to take note of them.

The triggers were:…
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Recognizing Triggers and Traps in Overcoming Porn Addiction, Part 1

In Addictions, Formation, Freedom from Porn, Male and Female Relationships and Roles in Marriage, Men Against Porn, Pornography, Technology by Bizgainey1 Comment

I struggled with porn addiction for years before I realized that certain moments, thoughts, people, or places were triggers.  These triggers, when encountered, would ignite my desire and drive my decision-making process.†

After years of encountering them – and failing in that moment – I learned to recognize them and be on guard against them.  I’ve also learned that you can survive these triggers – even thrive in the midst of them, with a few steps and/or strategies.

A couple of the triggers and traps I’ve noticed through the years …
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