Five Reasons Why I Am a Man Against Porn

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Five Reasons Why I Am A Man Against Porn

I am an outspoken critic of porn.  I am also a proponent of putting an end to the global industry it has spawned.

My goal in all of this, however, is to offer hope and encouragement to men and women who struggle with compulsive sexual behavior disorders.

Most, if not all of these disorders, are connected to porn consumption and/or addiction!

This “work” against porn, in support of love (yes, the two are mutually exclusive) began over ten years ago.

My …
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What You Need to Know Before You Join a Recovery Group

In Addictions, Formation, Habits, Men Against Porn, Pornography, Social Media, Technology by Bizgainey1 Comment

Have you ever asked yourself, “What will it take to beat this addiction?”  I sure did.

Many times.

Over.

And.

Over.

And.

Over.

Again.

My wife asked it of me about a thousand times more than I asked it of myself.

Here’s the deal: If you’re asking, at least you are acknowledging that you have a problem!

Many Men Never Ask the Question: “What will it take?”

Most men – many men – never get that far.

While I can’t tell you every step you’re going to need to take, …
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How do I “Unsee” All Those Pornographic Images?

In Brokenness, Consumption, Formation, Freedom, Freedom from Porn, Habits, Pornography, Sex and Violence, Technology by BizgaineyLeave a Comment

Have you ever wondered how to unsee all those pornographic images you’ve spent years viewing?

If so, you’re not alone.  In fact, that’s a common – and often misunderstood – part of the journey.  Especially when you want to make the transition from a life saturated by free-porn to a life that’s finally porn-free!

Once you decide it’s time to live a porn-free life, you begin to notice how hard it is to get all those images out of your head.

Many of us find ourselves fighting images every moment …
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Feeling, Rather than Fleeing, Pain!

In Addictions, Brokenness, Formation, Fully Awake, Habits, Loneliness, Psalms, Purpose and Meaning, Resolution, Soul-Care, Spiritual Formation by BizgaineyLeave a Comment

The Princess Bride, a modern fairy tale employing all of the standard elements like Royalty, clearly defined heroes and villains, stark contrasts between good and evil, hints of magic and happy endings, is one of my favorite flicks.

While there are so many parts of this movie that make one laugh, there are also just as many parts that offer insight.

In one poignant moment, just after Princess Buttercup is mocked by the “Dread Pirate Roberts” and before she rediscovers her long, lost Wesley, the Pirate King reminds her that …
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Does Eminem Get the Gospel?

In Contemplation, Culture, Desire, Discipleship, Formation, Habits, Purpose and Meaning, Resolution, Surrender by Bizgainey2 Comments

Does Eminem Get the Gospel?

Legend has it that The Times once sent an inquiry to famous authors, asking the question, “What’s wrong with the world today?”

To which G.K. Chesterton responded:

“Dear Sir,

I am.

Yours, G.K. Chesterton.”

Eminem’s 2013 smash hit, Monster, topped the charts in no fewer than twelve countries.

Featuring guest vocalist Rihanna, the heart-thumping rhythms and hard-driving vocals were greeted by worldwide applause and assault.

Many within the Entertainment industry applauded Monster, while many in the Christian community assaulted Monster.

Admittedly, his lyrics are often …
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A Father and a Fan, 2: The Heart of Vero Keeps Hope Alive!

In Desire, Football, Formation, Habits by BizgaineyLeave a Comment

When a team has heart – by that I mean grit, determination, desire, mettle, and hunger – hope never dies.

As long as hope lives, anything is possible!

Anything!

Last Friday night, fans of this year’s installment of #fightingindianfootball, witnessed a team with heart.

And, honestly, no one ever guessed that heart would be required to win this year’s district championship game.

Indeed, we entered Fort Pierce Central’s home field as huge favorites.  We left as district champions!

But something special happened in between our coming in as favorites and …
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Social Media: You Child is Spending NINE Hours A Day On it!

In Addictions, Culture, Discipleship, Freedom from Porn, Habits, Parenting, Social Media by BizgaineyLeave a Comment

Social Media: You Child is Spending NINE Hours a Day On It!

Social media apps are saturated with porn.  Porn is not, however, the only problem.  The problems associated with social media, particularly among the generation raised with unfettered access to social media, range from lack of trust to a loss of hope.

Note the lament of a teenager raised in the digital age.  While her voice is her own, it’s one familiar to and representative of so many more:

“I have terrible trust issues.  Ever since middle school and …
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Devotion: A Sacred and Signature Affection!

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Devotion: A Sacred and Signature Affection! “The material creation is not just some detour from our heavenly existence. It is the very good abode created by our heavenly Father. Creation is not some icky, regrettable mistake on God’s part. It is the product of his love.” James K.A. Smith, You Are What You Love.

It sounds strange to claim that delight begins with devotion.  When we think of delight, or things we enjoy, we intuitively assume that devotion is the last thing required.  Who needs devotion to enjoy things like …
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Moving from Devotional Life to a Devoted Life!

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Moving from “Devotional Life” to a Devoted Life!

Most mornings these days I hear my middle child stirring around 7:00 a.m.  It’s summertime – typically a time of year when Monday morning would call for sleep, well into the day.

Yet Luke rolls out of bed – quite literally – around 7:00 a.m., on his own.

Why?

Because summer workouts are in full – swing.  His injury is slowly healing and he’s working hard to be a vital part of this year’s team.

He knows that the part he may …
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