What is a “Contemplative” Bible Study?

In Christian Leadership, Contemplation, Culture, Discipleship, Formation, Fully Awake, Habits by BizgaineyLeave a Comment

Our culture is, perhaps, the most distracted and disengaged culture in human history.

New York Times Journalist, Tony Schwartz, recently noticed how distracted he’s become when trying to read a book – something an award-winning Journalist and author ought to be able to do with ease.   Upon reflection, he realized that unread books were piling up in his home: mocking him, rebuking him, as they lay silently – untouched – on the bedside table.  In an insightful article, he writes:

“Instead of reading them, I was spending too many hours …
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One Ounce of Prevention . . . Kids and Porn

In Freedom from Porn, Habits, Men Against Porn, Parenting, Pornography, Technology by BizgaineyLeave a Comment

“One ounce of prevention is worth a pound of cure.”

This axiom, credited to Benjamin Franklin, is as true today as it was then.  Especially if you want to help your kids steer clear of pornography.

This quick post is designed to do that very thing: help you help your kids steer clear of pornography.

I am a father of three teenagers.  I am a man who has won hard-fought freedom from porn’s grip.  This ‘ounce’ of prevention is designed to give you some handles so that you can do …
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Does One Bad Moment Make Me a Monster?

In Addictions, Brokenness, Formation, Freedom, Freedom from Porn, Habits, Pornography, Technology by BizgaineyLeave a Comment

During the early days of my journey out of porn addiction, I remember a time when I had been porn-free for about 90 days (yes, I numbered freedom by days, not months).  It was, at that time, the longest I had ever gone without clicking a website, watching a video, or trying to get porn in any form I could.

Then one day I crashed, badly.  All the signs were there; I just didn’t see them.  Either that or I simply refused to take note of them.

The triggers were:…
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A Daily Prayer for this Season of Celebration and Cheer!

In Desire, Discipleship, Formation, Fully Awake, Habits, Prayer by BizgaineyLeave a Comment

This daily prayer is one I crafted as a part of my Granular Rhythms of Grace. Specific to this season, I hope this  prayer equips you to enjoy the rhythm of becoming aware of our lesser loves and how they point to our Ultimate Love.   Happy Thanksgiving!

Gracious Lord,

You are, indeed, a good, good Father.

This day, of all days, you’d think an awareness of your grace and goodness would be intuitive to those whom you have loved.

My King, I confess: This day – indeed, this entire season …
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July Prayer Journey: A Few Minutes A Day May Just Change Your Life!

In Contemplation, Formation, Habits, Prayer, Spiritual Formation by Bizgainey1 Comment

Can a few minutes a day change your life?

The ancients thought  so! The Psalmist proclaims, in Psalm 119:164,

“I will praise you seven times a day     because all your regulations are just.”

How might seven full stops a day reorient my life?

How might seven meaningful moments of praise, prayer, and reflection empower me to live into the fullness of God’s love and the life He offers?

I hope that seven brief but potent Spirit-empowered daily pauses, practiced with intention and over time, will help me be more engaged, …
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A Well-Loved Soul is a Soul that Loves Well!

In Contemplation, Culture, Discipleship, Formation, Fully Awake, Habits, Spiritual Formation by BizgaineyLeave a Comment

The outcome of a well-loved soul is a life well lived!

I long to be a well-loved soul. I know that when my soul is well loved, I will love others well. The book of Psalms is a river of refreshing waters, from which I drink when my soul thirsts for love.  I often find that, whether in lament or laughter, the psalmist’s words ooze blessings that both spring from and shape a well-loved soul.

“Bless the Lord, O my soul, and all that is within me, bless his …
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Resolutions? No Mas. 2016 is about Life Shaping Desire!

In Desire, Discipleship, Fully Awake, Habits, Spiritual Formation, Surrender, Thanksgiving by Bizgainey3 Comments

2016 Resolutions?  I resolve to remain unresolved!  How’s that??

No mas!  I’m done!  Uncle!  I am, in modern vernacular, tapping out.

I considered putting ink to paper and developing a resolution or two.  Then I spied March’s dissolution in the fogged over windshield of life’s hyped up, over maxed, half-baked January resolution.  Such foresight has given me the wisdom to say no more to the resolution parade.

This year, rather than a long list of short lived resolutions, I am spending some time Reflecting on Life Shaping Desire.  These reflections …
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Porn: Three Ways to Keep that “Gift” in it’s Box!!

In Advent, Brokenness, Christmas, Community, Desire, Formation, Habits, Pornography by Bizgainey2 Comments

This time of year – the Thanksgiving through mid-January holiday season (because the college bowl season has become its own holiday) –  is a particularly vibrant season for many of us.

Extended holiday seasons provide space to celebrate life and the loved ones with whom we live.  They are dotted with parties, engagements, gift – giving, year-end bonuses, festive feasts, etc.

While Holidays can offer joy and celebration, they also produce emotions ranging from anxiety and anger to stress and depression.  Many of these negative emotions are kept at bay …
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When Everybody Knows Your Name

In Community, Fully Awake, Habits, Loneliness, Spiritual Formation, Uncategorized by Bizgainey4 Comments

“Where Everybody Knows Your Name” is the theme song from the 1980s television sitcom Cheers.  The song (here,https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=xvRGh2NEjSU),written by Gary Portnoy and Judy Hart Angelo, pricked the soul of a nation and became an anthem of longing for a generation adrift; a generation in search of a place of welcome.  A place where “everybody knows your name”!

Cheers, which nearly tanked in season 1, went on to run for a precedent setting eleven seasons, becoming an American Television Classic.

The characters Sam, Coach, Woody, Diane, Norm and Cliff are iconic.  …
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A Few Simple Ways Any Parent Can Minimize the Impact of Porn!

In Addictions, Christian Leadership, Freedom, Habits, Parenting, Pornography, Purpose and Meaning, Uncategorized by Bizgainey2 Comments

Tired of porn ruling your world, running your emotions, wrecking your home?

Tired of addiction consuming you, your spouse, your kids, your friends, and neighbors?

In this and the next few posts – I am going to outline a few simple ways any parent/person can minimize the impact of porn!

I am not offering boundaries or a list of protective measures one might take in this effort. Establishing boundaries and developing guidelines for technology usage is crucial. I have made those suggestions elsewhere on this blog.

These posts will dig …
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