Five Reasons Why I Am a Man Against Porn

In Addictions, Consumption, Habits, Loneliness, Male and Female Relationships and Roles in Marriage, Marriage, Men Against Porn, Parenting, Pornography by Bizgainey1 Comment

Five Reasons Why I Am A Man Against Porn

I am an outspoken critic of porn.  I am also a proponent of putting an end to the global industry it has spawned.

My goal in all of this, however, is to offer hope and encouragement to men and women who struggle with compulsive sexual behavior disorders.

Most, if not all of these disorders, are connected to porn consumption and/or addiction!

This “work” against porn, in support of love (yes, the two are mutually exclusive) began over ten years ago.

My …
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Feeling, Rather than Fleeing, Pain!

In Addictions, Brokenness, Formation, Fully Awake, Habits, Loneliness, Psalms, Purpose and Meaning, Resolution, Soul-Care, Spiritual Formation by BizgaineyLeave a Comment

The Princess Bride, a modern fairy tale employing all of the standard elements like Royalty, clearly defined heroes and villains, stark contrasts between good and evil, hints of magic and happy endings, is one of my favorite flicks.

While there are so many parts of this movie that make one laugh, there are also just as many parts that offer insight.

In one poignant moment, just after Princess Buttercup is mocked by the “Dread Pirate Roberts” and before she rediscovers her long, lost Wesley, the Pirate King reminds her that …
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God Bless Us, Every One!

In Christmas, Culture, Formation, Fully Awake, Loneliness, Purpose and Meaning by BizgaineyLeave a Comment

God Bless Us, Every One!

Just before the light of Christmas morning beams into Scrooge’s newly minted heart, the gloom of Christmas Yet-to-Come settles deep within the bowels of his soul.

Of all the apparitions, this is the one Scrooge fears most.

And, to the reader’s eye, this is certainly the most intimidating Spirit of them all!…
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Is My Pastor Hooked On Porn?

In Addictions, Desire, Formation, Loneliness, Men Against Porn, Ministry, Pornography by Bizgainey2 Comments

Do you know where your pastor is right now?

Do you know what he or she is doing, this very moment?

Of course, you don’t.  Most of us don’t know where (unless they are actually with us) our spouse or children are at this precise moment.  We don’t truly know what they are doing, nor do we know with whom they are doing whatever they are doing.

We could venture an educated guess or two and, perhaps, get close.

If you were to ‘guess’ what your pastor is doing, right …
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When Everybody Knows Your Name

In Community, Fully Awake, Habits, Loneliness, Spiritual Formation, Uncategorized by Bizgainey4 Comments

“Where Everybody Knows Your Name” is the theme song from the 1980s television sitcom Cheers.  The song (here,https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=xvRGh2NEjSU),written by Gary Portnoy and Judy Hart Angelo, pricked the soul of a nation and became an anthem of longing for a generation adrift; a generation in search of a place of welcome.  A place where “everybody knows your name”!

Cheers, which nearly tanked in season 1, went on to run for a precedent setting eleven seasons, becoming an American Television Classic.

The characters Sam, Coach, Woody, Diane, Norm and Cliff are iconic.  …
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