Recognizing Triggers and Traps, Part 3.

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Triggers and Traps: The Tempting Situation

As I write this post on preparing for and resisting The Tempting Situation, I am sitting in a Starbucks drinking my customary Grande Bold Coffee, black.

Here is what I can tell you based on this one morning in Starbucks: For those of us who are trying to live a porn-free life, or who are trying to maintain a porn-free life, temptations abound, and they are everywhere.

We will, at some point, be tempted or face a Tempting Situation, in which our …
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Recognizing Triggers and Traps in Overcoming Porn Addiction, Part 2

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In my last post, I wrote about the importance of identifying the Trying Season.

The Trying Season is that moment or season of life where stress grows and relief is needed.  Porn exploits those times of our life and extracts our dignity in the process.

Today I am going to consider another trigger we need to be aware of in our fight against porn.  It is,

The Teasing Sensation.

Life is full of teasers.  A teaser is, according to Merriam-Webster, “something that is done, offered, or shown to make
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Recognizing Triggers and Traps in Overcoming Porn Addiction, Part 1

In Addictions, Formation, Freedom from Porn, Male and Female Relationships and Roles in Marriage, Men Against Porn, Pornography, Technology by Bizgainey1 Comment

I struggled with porn addiction for years before I realized that certain moments, thoughts, people, or places were triggers.  These triggers, when encountered, would ignite my desire and drive my decision-making process.†

After years of encountering them – and failing in that moment – I learned to recognize them and be on guard against them.  I’ve also learned that you can survive these triggers – even thrive in the midst of them, with a few steps and/or strategies.

A couple of the triggers and traps I’ve noticed through the years …
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Five Quick Tips for Parenting Against Porn

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Five Quick Tips for Parenting Against Porn†

My wife and I – having three teenagers in our home – are raising children who are fully absorbed into the first technology-drenched generation.  As such, we’ve learned a few things – often through failure – that might help those of you who are walking in our shoes.

So, from the heart of one parent to another – if you are interested in PARENTING AGAINST PORN and guarding your child’s heart, then take a minute and consider the following FIVE QUICK TIPS.

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Time Magazine’s PORN Issue.

In Addictions, Consumption, Culture, Men Against Porn, Pornography by BizgaineyLeave a Comment

BLOGGER NOTE: For those of you following my Awe and Wonder Series, another installment will be coming out next week.  I am putting the finishing touches on an article I am excited about and look forward to your responses when I distribute it.  Until then, please take a minute and consider this update on what’s going on in the world of porn addiction/recovery and how you can help us!

Time Magazine’s recent issue on porn is joining an ongoing cultural conversation many have been holding for years.

Their coverage is …
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Is My Pastor Hooked On Porn?

In Addictions, Desire, Formation, Loneliness, Men Against Porn, Ministry, Pornography by Bizgainey2 Comments

Do you know where your pastor is right now?

Do you know what he or she is doing, this very moment?

Of course, you don’t.  Most of us don’t know where (unless they are actually with us) our spouse or children are at this precise moment.  We don’t truly know what they are doing, nor do we know with whom they are doing whatever they are doing.

We could venture an educated guess or two and, perhaps, get close.

If you were to ‘guess’ what your pastor is doing, right …
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Porn: Three Ways to Keep that “Gift” in it’s Box!!

In Advent, Brokenness, Christmas, Community, Desire, Formation, Habits, Pornography by Bizgainey2 Comments

This time of year – the Thanksgiving through mid-January holiday season (because the college bowl season has become its own holiday) –  is a particularly vibrant season for many of us.

Extended holiday seasons provide space to celebrate life and the loved ones with whom we live.  They are dotted with parties, engagements, gift – giving, year-end bonuses, festive feasts, etc.

While Holidays can offer joy and celebration, they also produce emotions ranging from anxiety and anger to stress and depression.  Many of these negative emotions are kept at bay …
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I Love My Wife AND Friday Night Lights!!

In Football, Male and Female Relationships and Roles in Marriage, Marriage, Parenting, Pornography, Vero Beach Fighting Indians by BizgaineyLeave a Comment

In Vero Beach, where I live, high school football is a weekly tradition. For some, we might even call it a ritual.

We usually buy four season tickets and attend most of the home games. The team is fun to watch. Coach Jankowski and his staff do a stellar job (in my opinion) getting the team ready to play every Friday night: under the lights!

This year, our middle child is a rising freshman. He loves football.  He cannot wait to put on the pads and play ball for the …
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Every Click Claims Another Captive!

In Addictions, Brokenness, Pornography, Uncategorized by Bizgainey5 Comments

And there will no longer be any night; and they will not have need of the light of a lamp nor the light of the sun, because the Lord God will illumine them; and they will reign forever and ever.

No need for the light of a lamp?

Light without end?  Unending Illumination.

Not today.

Tomorrow?  Likely, no.

Perhaps next year, in ten years, 100 years, who knows?

One day, however, the need for artificial light will end.  One who is light will illumine all.

I long for that day.…
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